Children see happiness everywhere. Such is the magic of children. They heal everything around them. We always wish for our children to remain happy forever. Even when they reach the age of an adult, the parents always tend to see a small child in them. Some parents become too overprotective to not let their children bring decisions to the table. However, it is crucial to inculcate the idea of preparing our children for the worst which they might face in the future.
‘Good times’ and ‘bad times are inevitable. A person’s journey since childhood is a blend of events that can be negative and positive. It also depends upon their perception of how they take it as an individual. A person’s emotional and psychological foundation develops from childhood. By the time they turn 2, they talk about emotion. Even from this stage of their life, you can prepare them for the worst-case scenarios.
Talk to your children even about the ‘sad’ topics
Sharing and discussing the different aspects of life with your child works as therapy. When you share with children, they also come to share their piece of experiences with you. They open up about what they dislike or any unpleasant incidents which occurred with them recently or in the past.
This can be about the person they don’t like, food which they don’t want to eat, a teacher whom they hate, or any negative event. When they open up, try to make them understand. If you cannot do so, take them to the child counselor. This is important because once, they suppress their emotions; it will make them emotionally weak from the inside.
Share decisions
Hope for the best and prepare your children for the worst.
Those children who are involved by their parents in the decisions, tend to have decision-making capacity. Sometimes it is important to let them decide for themselves. The instances of decision-making with children can be like, ‘This month, either we can go hiking or try some water sport. What would you like to choose?’ Putting conditions like these will help them weigh the pros and cons in life.
Teach them to be mentally tough
As a parent, you are a life coach to your child. When they fail in something, it might disappoint them. As a parent, you need to help them to overcome the feeling of failure. Every achievement has a story of failure too. Let them go at the required pace. Later on, they would start focusing on what went wrong and how they could fix it.
Help the child to embrace the feelings
Whatever the children are feeling angry, frustrated, happy, anxious, excited, let them feel that. Appreciate when they choose to describe the feelings. This will help them think that there is nothing wrong with whatever they feel. They need to feel perfectly fine when they are not feeling good. They could put their traits, strengths, and weaknesses in a better frame. As a result, it will help them reduce their emotional baggage.
Raise mentally powerful kids so that they don’t get shattered in their toughest times. This can happen when you along with your child take efforts in this direction. At Healing With Priya Kaul, we are constantly striving to let everyone adopt the strategies and techniques to stay tough in critical times, and surround themselves with positive energies.
